I wanted to take this time to say thanks to all who follow my blog, and take the time to leave comments, I appreciate you more than I can say. Without you, without the support you show by purchasing my products, leaving your thoughts and sharing with me your own stories, I would not be in the position I am today. It’s because of you my work has meaning. To know I am able to provide something that benefits many others is the greatest gift I can possibly receive, so thank-you for allowing me to continue doing what it is that I am so blessed to be doing.

May this holiday season find you with much to be grateful for, receiving what you desire most and giving freely of your time and talents. Rather than looking for ways to get blessed, you choose to be a blessing. So when the time comes to take down the tree and pack away the ornaments, may you keep the thoughts, the attitudes and behaviors that decorate the lives of other people with you year round. God will bring you to the vision, the rest is up to you…Paul

Back in October I was doing a book signing in Mt.Clemens, Michigan. Early that afternoon I met a woman named Millie. “I’ve heard a lot of good things about you Paul, your influencing the lives of others in a very positive manner.” Millie stated exactly what my life is truly about, and that’s showing others a better way. When properly followed, some amazing things will follow, that I can promise you. Millie purchased two books. One was for herself, the second she said was going into the break room where she worked. I thanked her again for the kind words, then wished her a pleasant weekend, this was Saturday afternoon.

The following day I was back at the signing. Sunday being the final day, I would be there from noon till three. When I arrived at 11:50, Millie was waiting in front of my signing table. Hello Millie, and how are you doing today? Well I am just fine, Paul. I came back to talk about your book. When I got home yesterday I started reading your book after dinner, I didn’t put it down until I finished it. In an assuming tone, I said so you enjoyed it, Millie?  I loved it, Paul. I thought you did a real nice job, congrats on a great book but………Now I don’t know about you, but when someone is talking to me, and the word but is used, I tend to forget everything that was just said prior to the but, because the real point of the communication is now on it’s way. I tell people when your communicating with another person, and your going to make a point, don’t use the word but. But what Millie I asked? You have thoughts and ideas I have heard before, I already know those things, it’s spirituality 101 stuff.

After hearing this I didn’t like Millie anymore (just kidding.) What Millie said was in fact true, there are some things I write about that could, and probably are thought of as basics. But I include them for this reason- We are failing the basics. We are failing spirituality 101, and need be reminded of what they are. You’re not going to pick up a book and discover new thoughts, new ideas or new concepts when it comes to human behavior or achieving what we desire most in our lives. Returning to and living by the basics was, and still is, the infrastructure for reaching the prosperity we all want in life, the prosperity in our relationships, finances and spiritual growth. The same thoughts and principals talked about today originated from profound teachings that go back over 2,000 years, and so do the reasons we fail to practice those principals in our daily lives.

Get yourself reacquainted with the basics. It is from this perspective we begin the natural progression into manifesting life, the part of us that has no understanding of limitations, shortages or ego. There is nothing to learn, this is accomplished through remembering. Life is not so much about learning new things as much as it is remembering what we already know. God will give you the vision, the rest is up to you. Keep the peace and God bless…Paul

The very first job I had was at Windmill Pointe Park in Grosse Pointe Park, Michigan. My Father was a Grosse Pointe Park Police Detective and was friends with the owner of the concession stand located in the park, so my first summer job, I was fifteen at the time.

My employer was Mr.Levigne. On my first official day of employment, Mr.Levigne walked me around the concession stand and showed me what I was hired to do; cut lettuce, cut onions and cut tomatoes, and that was it. He told me specifically I did not need to take orders from customers, cook food or take out the trash, he already had others in place for those duties. Once again he told me, just do what I have hired you to do and I will take care of everything else, Paul.

After a couple of weeks I grew tired of my role, I wanted to do something else. Even though I knew what was expected of me while on the clock, I was not going to continue with it. I began stepping into the duties of others, ignoring my position. Because I decided to do what I wanted to do, the entire operation suffered because of my knowing what was best. Following a couple of light reprimands from my boss, and one far more stringent from my Father, I happily returned to cutting lettuce, cutting onions and cutting tomatoes. Thirty-four years later I am still cutting lettuce, cutting onions and cutting tomatoes, just on a larger prep table.

We have all been given assignments by the Supreme Intelligence who is responsible for all the good in life, and he made those assignments pretty simple, and very specific. But we grow tired of our assigned role, because we know what’s right, we know what’s best, and we begin stepping into roles that we were never intended to assume, this is one of the way’s in which ego expresses itself. We abandon our prep table, and begin meddling in the lives, beliefs and affairs of other people. By ignoring the role given us, the universe suffers as we are all witnessing. The reprimands we are receiving today come in the forms hatred, oppression, starvation, ignorance and a host of other issues brought on by people stepping outside their assigned roles.

We draw from from our own experiences, and because it works for me, it will work for you as well. If I were to ask you, what brings you the greatest of pride and joy in your life? Many would probably answer their children (come on raise your hands, it’s ok…nobody’s watching!) I think that God feels the same way. We have all been created by God, in his likeness, in his image. We are all part of this grand design, engineered to do great things in this life. So because of this truth, we are all related, we all share the same nationality that being of spirit, but we do not see this. What we do see is how we are different. And in looking at difference, well, the difference we see in the end will make no difference at all.

We need to live from a different consciousness, a consciousness we all lived from before we took on ego. There are things we need in life, things we desire in life. There is no secret, secret behind a secret or a psychology behind the secret. Getting what we need and desire is a little more than learning how to ask for them. I don’t have all the answers, but what life has taught me, what spiritual truth has proven to me, loving and caring for our spiritual equals is a good place to start. Look for ways to extend kindness. Look for the good in others even though that sometimes requires quite a bit of searching, count your blessings while always being one. God will bring you to the vision, the rest is up to you. Keep the peace and God bless…Paul

Addictions tell us what to do and when to do it. What they don’t tell us is when to stop. When in the throws of addictions finding the door to liberation feels impossible, you feel useless, there is nothing worse in this life than the feeling of having no purpose. Addictions are goal oriented, non discriminatory in that they want but one thing, and that’s to kill you. They don’t care how young or old you are, where you live, how good of a person you are or what our worth financially, once they bite you it’s on.

23 million Americans are addicted to alcohol- 12.8% to drugs- 12.0% to sex- 8.1% to gambling and 32% are addicted to nicotine. Up to 90% of Americans are addicted to caffeine, 70% of the population considered fat. Well over half that enter a rehabilitation treatment facility for a dependency will relapse, many will go through said program multiple times. It’s a very slow form of suicide for the addicted soul leaving quite a debris field in terms of family, friends and those who tried putting the pin back into the hand grenade.

It was halftime during the game I was watching. My choices were flip through the channels or continue fixing the dryer, flipping through channels was the easy decision. I went to one of my favorite cable channels where the program was just coming back from commercial, and into the Family room where quite a few people were gathered. A young man entered into the room. He was met by Family members, friends, lights and camera’s rolling-certainly appeared to be a “made for TV” ambush. Seated in the center of the room, one by one, people took turns telling this kid what was on their minds, things like- “Do you know what your doing to us?” You’re destroying us, man!” “You are a waste of space!” “Your Mother and I didn’t raise you this way, why can’t you be more like your brother?” Every person took the opportunity to express what they we’re going through as a result of this person’s behavior.

I can’t see how this exercise can be viewed as positive. If the goal is to elevate the consciousness of the addicted soul, using guilt, shame and negative barbs will only reinforce what he already believes about himself, but this is what we refer to as therapy. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe told us “If you treat an individual as he is, he will stay as he is; but if you treat him as if he were what he ought to be and could be, he will become what he ought to be and could be.” William James reminded us “If we hold a picture in our minds long enough, that’s exactly what we will become in reality.” When using negative means to reach someone, as this exercise was doing, we are assisting in developing that picture, almost certainly driving that person deeper into their destructive ways.

When you hear something over and over again, good or bad, you’re going to believe it. So why should we be surprised when this type of therapy derives poor results? Because it’s what we know. Changing who you are starts by changing how you see yourself. This means dismantling all you have heard, all you have been told about who you are and what you are that come in the way of negative connotations. When you can truly once again see yourself authentically, and live from this perspective, you are well on your way to defeating any addictive behavior. You hear it all the time from those who are attempting to quit anything, they tell you how hard it’s going to be, well you need to change how you view quitting, much like changing how you see yourself. If your looking at how hard it’s going to be to quit, then why bother with it? Willpower is a prescription for failure, it just does not work for most people. I write in depth in my book I may be wrong but I doubt it on exactly how easy it is to quit any addictive pattern, you’ll be amazed and just how easy it can be. Remember; New thoughts create new behaviors!

I was doing an interview with Ray Genovese on WHMP radio Northampton, Massachusetts. My next book titled I may be wrong but I doubt it was the reason Ray had me on. In the book I talk about five critical components to creating an envisioned life. When followed the way I have them written in the book, incredible things happen in people’s lives, I see it everyday. The component that Ray and I were on was our relationship to authenticity, living from our authentic self, the first of the five components.

We had a caller, a very nice Woman who wanted to comment on our discussion. Her point was in order to gain life everlasting, just being a good person would not suffice. The caller emphasized we need to be born again and other rituals we all must complete or we’re destined for the furthest point south. Now I am in favor of anything that brings a person closer to God, it is the most important relationship there is. Religion can bring hope to the hopeless, help a soul find the door to liberation when vices or situations have them by the throat, Religion succeeds where Psychology fails. But how an individual comes to this relationship is private and needs to be respected, you don’t have to like it. You don’t have to agree. But you need to respect it.

Some religions, and I preface some, promote division and separation among people, creating an atmosphere opposite of every teaching that has been made available to us. We will like you just the way you are as long as your just like is the attitude many receive when they attend their place of worship, a place they call a house of God. Not only do they know what’s best for themselves, they know what’s best for you as well, a direct contradiction to the gift of free will.

You will hear of souls who send money into television ministries, or as I call them the electric pulpit. The promise is in exchange for your money, we’re gonna get you what you want. If you really want God to know that you’re serious, send more money, that will get God’s attention. People have been known to send in their life savings, every penny they saved in exchange for a miracle, not that is utterly contemptible. I think we tend to see these organizations much like a travel agent to God, that without them, God is not going to listen to us.

So if we want God to listen, if we want to honor him, we should start by honoring each other. Living from our authentic self is a very good starting point, living life as it was meant to be experienced. Living from this perspective means you see yourself as no better, no worse than anyone else. That in being created equal, we are  all created equal in our desire to be happy, prosperous and respected. Someone said everything I needed to learn about life in learned in Kindergarten, I love this. In other words, what we need to know about living from authentic self does not require learning on our part, it’s simply remembering. God will bring you the vision, the rest is up to you…Paul

I am what others think of me. OK, I will admit it. When it comes to shows like American Idol, my head has been in the sand. Recently a friend forwarded me a video from the program, I’m assuming this video must be a year or two old because it’s been viewed 60 million times…yes, 60 million times. I watched it once, I watched it twice, I watched it 60 million times. I am one of those People always looking for something positive I can use along the way, we find them at times in the strangest of places, now I can add American Karaoke to that list.

When asked Who would you most like to be, She answered with Elaine Paige, which drew jeers and laughter from those in attendance, and the three “judges” looked at her cross eyed, yes the laughs were a’ plenty. The audience went hysterical went She walked out. They laughed at her attire, her appearance. They laughed loudly at her responses, and just to be sure we didn’t miss anything, the cameras panned the levity. What are you going to sing? I dream the dream from Les Miserable the frumpy Entertainer responded, somehow that was even funny.

But when the music began to play, Frumpy flat out kicked ass. 10,000 simple minded cynics listened with bewildering awe as Susan Boyle delivered delight to the ears of millions of people. But besides her ability to sing, an incredible ability at that, She also paid no attention to the treatment She was receiving prior to everybody digging her. She was not the least bit concerned with what others were saying, thinking or doing, She was not going to let other people determine her value.

To be concerned with what others think about us, or to become so consumed with who likes us or who does not like us is delusional. In fact, those who are popular, those who attract people are those who don’t worry about what others think, they march to their own drummer. People that make a difference in this world, those who lead by example I can promise you are not followers. They know what’s right for who they are, and unafraid to be who they are. There are people who can say one thing in Iowa at 9am, something different in Indiana at noon and then something completely different in California at 6pm, but that’s called campaigning. And in order to get elected, you have to be liked by a lot of people but only until your elected, that’s called politics!

We see this need in Children, the pressure of fitting in with a specific group they want to be identified with. Parents will tell them to just be yourself, just be who you are, and everything will be just fine, well try convincing a teenager of that. Then you see the people who are giving that advice doing the exact same thing, looking for identification and validation from those they seek approval. If you don’t think Adults behave this way, just attend a facebook party.

We all desire to be liked and accepted, I think that’s only natural. But approval seeking shows others a lack of confidence, an air of desperation, and this gives others little choice in how to react to you. Those who worry a lot less about what others think have far more time to focus their attention on the things that matter…God will give you the vision, the rest is up to you. Keep the peace, and God bless…….Paul

I began writing this blog last week at the insistence of my Publisher, and very glad that I did. I want to thank you for the many wonderful comments I have been receiving, as well as those who have signed up for my newsletter, we are working on getting that out as soon as possible. If you would like to sign up for the newsletter, you can do so on my page, so please sign up. With some of the comments came questions about who I am, and what I do.

Well, my name is Paul Wedding. If you were to ask those who know me, they would describe as a humble, unassuming non-conformist. In print I am described as quickly and quietly becoming an expert in the area of positive Human development, someone who truly cares about the lives of others. I am the Author of two books to date. The first titled If you only knew what you already know was a best seller, sold out every copy. My second book titled I may be wrong but I doubt it is scheduled for release early in 2011. Not long after my first book came out, I began speaking. I would speak anywhere I could, even if they didn’t want to hear me! Today I am fortunate enough to be invited to speak at Companies, organizations, Schools and Churches. I am often doing talk radio, because I have the face for it.

I am not listing my resume here to impress you, or get you to purchase my products, I’m not real comfortable talking about myself to begin with, just not my style, but there is a reason that I do. Not that long ago I was destitute. I had no money, no car, no job, no prospects or hope. I called home to a dumpster behind a Chinese restaurant in Westminster California, I ate there as well. On April 19th 2003 at 12:37 in the afternoon, I had an encounter, an experience, whatever you want to call it. I have come to understand this experience was with a power far greater than myself, a power I call God. This was not a religious conversion, or being born again, just a direct experience that would change the direction, change the purpose of my life.

That change of purpose translated into what I am doing today, something I am passionate about, and that’s maximizing our Human potentials. I show people all across the Country how to attract into your life all that you desire, living a life you have envisioned for yourself. It does not matter what you have done, where you have been or what your not doing today. We all have the ability to do this, everyone of us, I can promise you that. It’s all about adopting certain principals, eliminating old systems and living them consistently. So that’s a little about me. I look forward to sharing thoughts and ideas through this blog that you may find useful, we can all use a little improvement, it’s the biggest room in our house. God will get you to the door, the rest is up to you….Keep the peace and God bless….Paul

Tis’ the season. Three little words we all are hearing repeatedly now, but what’s the meaning behind it? Tis the season. If you’re in retail, a call to spend some dollars on Christmas gifts. For certain faiths, a celebration of Christ’s birth. Others gear up for the new year, new resolutions, new hope for the upcoming year. Regardless of the meaning, the tendency is for us to be a little more thoughtful and reflective, with the minor exception of how we go about finding places to park at the malls! My big thing is do I wear a coat in or do I leave it in the car? If you leave it in the car, yeah you freeze for a few minutes, but if you wear it into the mall you either sweat for the time your there, or you have to carry it around, sounds like a little complaining on my part, huh?

Complaining? But Tis the season, goodwill to Men, who would complain about anything during Tis the season? Ungrateful attitudes know no season unfortunately, this is a good time for the reflective aspect of Tis the season to reign. So what is it that so many of us are so unhappy about we need to be complaining so frequently?

Is it because the homes we live in come with electricity and running water that we can heat when it’s cold outside, or cool when it gets to hot outside? Is the source of our discontent due to the fact when we wake in the morning we have appliances that brew our coffee, toast our bread, scramble our eggs or a place where we can shower alone and comfortably? Is the problem that 94% of us have automobiles to drive, many with two that are parked in garages? Is it because we’re so inconvenienced with convenience? After all, on just about every corner you will find a gas station, convenience store or a restaurant, is that part of the reason we so ungrateful? Is it upsetting to know you can walk into a grocery store at any given time of the day or evening, and see more food than some Countries will in a year? Choices. Now that’s something to be irritated over. We choose our elected officials without threat or duress, who we marry, where our kids will go to school what to watch on the TV that has over 500 channels, our Doctor, Dentist career path. A real gripe for sure is knowing if you fall gravely ill, pushing three buttons on your telephone summons trained Technicians with life saving equipment to your home in minutes, and transport you to a hospital right in your neighborhood. Law enforcement, should your family or property be threatened, will arrive to protect your family and property, risking their life to save yours.

So with so much bitching and malcontent circulating, why is that 75% of the world population would risk life and limb to come to a place where there’s so much unhappiness? Because they understand there is no better place on earth than the land of the free, the home of the brave. We spend an inordinate amount of time bitching about what we don’t have, rather than appreciating and giving thanks for all that we do, and we have much to be grateful for. We need to be reminded of what’s important in this life. Yes the economy is not good, I think God is taking this time to “remind” us that simplicities are what’s important, the things we simply take for granted because we have become so used to having them. Before you get out of bed in the morning, think of 5 things that your grateful for, do this before your feet hit the floor. Keep the peace and God bless…Paul